Chapter 340 I'm an emotional expert, share! All share! 5
Yunyan rested for about five minutes when there was another knock on the office door.
A quiet-looking girl with a high ponytail walked in.
Yunyan checked her information on the computer and found that the girl was only 17 years old.
She suddenly felt a little strange. Why did even minors come for emotional counseling?
Shouldn't he be in the third year of high school at this age?
The girl sat timidly opposite Yunyan. She just glanced at Yunyan and quickly lowered her head.
"Hello, Teacher Zhang. My name is Xu Zhixi."
Yunyan said calmly: "At your age, you should be a high school student!"
Xu Zhixi did not deny it either.
"Yes, I am a senior this year and will take the college entrance examination in June."
Yunyan was curious.
"So you came here to consult about your family's emotional problems?"
Xu Zhixi shook her head and gave an unexpected answer.
"I'm here to consult about the relationship problem between me and my boyfriend. I don't know what to do now, but I don't want my family to know."
Yunyan didn't understand why the girl didn't put her future first during the final sprint period of her senior year of high school.
But she still decided to listen to the girl first.
"Okay, then tell me the details of your relationship with your boyfriend!"
Xu Zhixi took a deep breath before organizing her words.
"It's like this. My boyfriend and I were in the same class in our first year of high school. Then in our third year, we were divided into key and ordinary classes, and we were no longer in the same class."
"I am in the key class and he is in the ordinary class. One problem we are facing now is that his grades are not very good and he may not be able to get into an undergraduate university. But I have always wanted to apply to a key university in another province."
"But we have a very good relationship. He really loves me and doesn't want to be separated from me, so he wants me to control my college entrance examination scores so that I can go to college with him."
Yunyan asked: "Do you want to be with him?"
Xu Zhixi hesitated for a while and shook her head.
"I don't know. My parents have always had high hopes for me. I have been someone else's child since I was little."
"If I didn't get into a key university, they would probably be crazier than me."
Yunyan understood a little bit.
This little girl was forced by her parents to be a good child since she was young and had never received true love, so when she met a yellow-haired man who treated her well, she fell in love with him.
"Have you told your boyfriend about this? What did he say?"
Xu Zhixi nodded.
"I talked to him before, and he said that it's useless for girls to study, and if I love him, I should be with him."
Yunyan raised her eyebrows. It seemed that this girl had been PUA-ed by her boyfriend.
Yunyan made a summary.
"So, you are now caught in a dilemma. On the one hand, you have the strong parent, and on the other hand, you have the person you love deeply, right!"
Xu Zhixi nodded and said affirmatively: "Yes, I have been having trouble sleeping recently because of this matter, so I thought about asking for help from others."
Yunyan brought up another topic.
"You said your boyfriend loves you very much, so what has he done for you?"
Having said that, Xu Zhixi's expression relaxed a little.
"He treated me very well. He would buy me milk tea, sanitary napkins and brown sugar ginger tea when I was on my period, and he would protect me when I was in danger."
Yunyan listened to Xu Zhixi talking about these cheap sacrifices and did not think that it was love. It was just a means to get someone.
But these young girls who are inexperienced in the world can easily fall into the trap because their original families often lack these things.
Yunyan would not look down on her, because everyone has a time when they are young and innocent.
Yunyan slowed down her tone.
"All these things you mentioned are what he did for you, so you like him because he did these things. Then can you tell me what are his good qualities?"
Xu Zhixi thought for a while before speaking.
"Isn't his heartwarming behavior a merit?"
Yunyan shook her head.
"He did all this for a purpose, which was to get you. This is not a virtue, but a means."
"According to what you said, you two should have been together for almost three years. Tell me the truth, has he always been this good to you for the past three years?"
Xu Zhixi shook her head.
"No, later he wasn't as passionate as when he was pursuing me, but he would occasionally care about me, and I could feel that he really cared about me."
Yunyan glanced at the cat hair remaining on her body and changed the subject.
"You have a cat at home, right?"
Xu Zhixi was puzzled.
"Why are you asking this suddenly? I do have a cat at home, and I've had it for several years."
Yunyan said, "So do you care for your cat occasionally, or do you take care of it all the time?"
Xu Zhixi answered without hesitation. "Of course I have been taking care of it all the time."
Yunyan smiled and said, "Look, your boyfriend's love for you is not as good as your love for your cat. Are you sure he really loves you?"
"He couldn't even persist in showing concern for you at the beginning, which shows that he was just pretending to be nice to you in the beginning."
Xu Zhixi couldn't believe it.
"That's not the case. He loves me. I can really feel it!"
Seeing that she was so stubborn, Yunyan did not deny her opinion.
"You can indeed feel his love because you lack love. If someone else showed such concern for you, you would like him just as well."
"Of course, I also believe that he definitely loves you in his heart. But three years have passed, and your love is slowly decreasing. Think about how many more three years there are in the future, and how long it will take for it to run out?"
Yunyan sighed.
"He said that if you really loved him, you would give up your studies for him. But if you think about it the other way around, if he really loved you, why would he block your future?"
"You actually don't believe that studying is useless. If studying is really useless, then why does the country still let so many children study?"
Xu Zhixi fell into deep thought, and Yunyan gave her a gentle hug.
"Silly girl, we need to find someone who is good in himself, not someone who is good to you."
"It's true that your boyfriend loves you, but he loves himself more, so he chooses to sacrifice your future to satisfy his selfish desires."
"If you don't love yourself, the shelf life of your love will be very short."
Xu Zhixi didn't speak for a long time, her eyes filled with tears, and then she raised her head.
"Sister, thank you for helping me analyze him and letting me see him clearly."
"I thought you would be like everyone else and criticize me for not doing my job at such a young age."
Yunyan smiled helplessly.
"Everyone has puberty. I've been through your stage too. There's nothing to criticize. As long as you can prioritize, it'll be fine."
Xu Zhixi stared at Yunyan in a daze.
"I have discussed this topic with my parents before, and they said they would break my legs if I wanted to have a relationship."
Yunyan touched her head.
"They lived through a different era than we did, and they looked at things in a much simpler and cruder way, but we cannot deny the love of our parents."
Xu Zhixi nodded, and Yunyan asked, "So have you thought it through now? Regarding your question, the only advice I can give you is to choose academic studies."
"I just analyzed it with you. Your boyfriend's love is not that impressive. His charm only comes from the love of your parents that you lack."
Xu Zhixi has also thought it through. I'll listen to you and break up with him.
Yunyan shook her head.
"Your boyfriend doesn't study well, so he should be doing well outside of school!"