Chapter 323 Common Methods of PUA

Chapter 323 Common Methods of PUA

During this period, Zhang Caifeng sometimes blushed and her heart beat fast because of Zhong Nan's arousal. She was always looking forward to him formally confessing his love to her, and also looked forward to their life after they started dating.

But sometimes, she felt very inferior, thinking that Zhong Nan knew a lot and could do a lot, and she was not worthy of such an excellent person...

Su Xing listened to the details described by Zhang Caifeng and felt that this routine was so familiar!

She blurted out, "He's PUAing you!"

Isn't this a classic PUA tactic?!

Zhang Caifeng didn't understand the word and asked in confusion, "What?"

When Su Xing heard Zhang Caifeng's reaction, she remembered that in this era, the word PUA has not yet been widely spread in the domestic Internet world.

She explained: "PUA stands for 'Pick-up Artist', which originally means 'pick-up artist'. However, in a relationship, if one party uses this deliberate and highly purposeful method on the other party, it becomes a terrible form of mental control."

Zhang Caifeng was stunned. "Mind control?"

Su Xing continued to explain in detail: "People who use PUA methods to control others mentally often regard the other party as prey, and they themselves are the hunters. When they first come into contact with you, they will set up a very perfect personality in front of you. They will use various means to make you curious and admire him, so that you will be attracted to him and think that you have met the right person. Then they will use positive reinforcement methods, such as providing you with emotional value, praising you, going on dates with you, giving you "little thoughts" and other rewards, so that you will gradually fall and fall into the emotional trap and can't stop. When you feel dependent on him, he will use negative reinforcement methods to pick out your shortcomings and blame your problems, making you have negative emotions. In order to get rid of these negative emotions, you will compromise with him, do things according to his wishes, and become what he wants. Then he will repeatedly use positive and negative reinforcement methods, praising and rewarding you for a while, and belittling and suppressing you for a while, causing your emotions to fluctuate all the time. You will look forward to his rewards and fear his suppression more and more, you will care more and more about his feelings, and thus lose yourself, and you will doubt yourself and deny your self-worth..."

There was no light in the ward. The moonlight shone through the gap in the curtains, and I could see a shadowy figure, but I couldn't see the person's face clearly.

Although Su Xing couldn't see Zhang Caifeng's expression at the moment, she saw that she seemed to be trembling...

Su Xing's voice couldn't help but pause.

In fact, there are more PUA methods than these, but according to Zhang Caifeng’s story, Zhong Nan has not used some of these methods on her yet.

It must be because they haven't been in contact for long, and he hasn't had time to use those methods.

After a while, Zhang Caifeng said in a trembling voice: "Go on..."

Su Xing thought for a moment and said, "After you have been together for a long time, he may make you isolated, and will do everything he can to shrink your social circle, so that you have less and less contact with friends and classmates, and then you will become more and more dependent on him. He will also tell you that others have ulterior motives towards you, and only he is sincere to you. There will be no one in the world who will treat you better than him. He has paid too much for you. If you don't listen, he will be so sad and disappointed. Gradually, a deep idea will be implanted in your mind: that you are terrible, you are not worthy of anyone, no one will be sincere to you except him, and no one will like you except him..."

Zhang Caifeng covered her face and started crying.

She cried for a while, her voice choked with sobs as she said, "What you said is basically correct... So, am I just his prey?"

Su Xing didn't know how to comfort her for a moment. She was silent for a few seconds before saying, "It's not your fault. It's just that this kind of person is too bad..."

Zhang Caifeng wiped away her tears and smiled bitterly, "One day I was wearing a brown sweater, and I took off my coat when eating. He said that my sweater didn't suit me and made my skin look darker. Then he immediately smiled tolerantly and said that he could accept my little flaws. He thought some of my shortcomings were cute, but he would help me cultivate my aesthetic taste in the future. There were several similar things that happened. I always felt that something was strange. He seemed to be very tolerant of me and treated me very well, but it made me feel very inferior..."

She took a deep breath and continued, "Now that you've talked about this PUA method, I finally understand why he's like this..."

Su Xing sneered, "That's right, this is a typical PUA method, making you feel that he is the only one who can tolerate your shortcomings, and that you are valuable only in front of him. He not only belittles you, but also elevates himself, making you feel inferior and think that it is your honor that he likes you."

Zhang Caifeng cried again, "I am so stupid..."

"It's really not your fault!" Su Xing emphasized this sentence again, and then said in a serious tone: "You must be confident, don't always doubt yourself, don't let yourself fall into the isolated environment created by others, and learn to say no. Also, when you are in contact with a boy, if there are some details that make you uncomfortable, don't choose to ignore this discomfort, stay away from him as soon as possible."

People who are easily PUA-ed tend to be sensitive and fragile, lack self-confidence, have no opinions, have a people-pleasing personality, and don’t know how to say no.

Zhang Caifeng has some of these traits.

This type of people are often the most likely to be targeted by mind manipulators and become their hunting targets.

Zhang Caifeng took two tissues, wiped her tears and snot, and then asked Su Xing: "Old Four, do you think there are many bad people like this in the world? Are there many victims of PUA?"

Su Xing answered confidently, "Quite a lot. In fact, there is not only PUA from men to women, but also PUA from women to men. There is also PUA from friendship, family, workplace, and even PUA from businesses to consumers... Many people have encountered various PUA methods during their growth experience..."

Zhang Caifeng suddenly made a request to Su Xing, "I've only known Zhong Nan for a short time, and I feel so bad now. Those who have been subjected to PUA for a long time must be even more helpless... Lao Si, when you have time, can you draw a set of anti-PUA posters and upload them to Weibo? I really hope more people will understand this terrible method, and I hope there will be fewer victims..."

Su Xing agreed without much hesitation, "Okay."

In fact, she had vaguely thought about this just now.

Zhang Caifeng said to Su Xing sincerely and solemnly: "Su Xing, thank you!"

Thank you for accepting her request and thank you for waking her up.

Su Xing's tone softened a bit, "Don't be polite to me."

The next day is Sunday.

Zhang Caifeng refused to stay in the hospital any longer and insisted on being discharged, saying that tomorrow was Monday and she was afraid it would affect her classes.

No one could persuade her, so they called a doctor.

The doctor ordered a routine checkup for her, the results of which showed that she was in good condition, and finally agreed to let her return to school after finishing today's IV drip.