Chapter 676: Once you are attentive
Gu Yihe said as a matter of course.
"Why do you need to say it directly?"
"We are a close family and have seen each other every day for so many years. He should understand my personality and my intentions."
Ning Yunxi's explanation is clear and logical.
"Don't you know that people who are family members don't necessarily understand each other?"
“Even couples who have been together for a long time may not be fully familiar with each other’s thoughts.”
"Moreover, if you yourself may not understand yourself, how can others understand you?"
"In my opinion, you should be straightforward and not be subtle. For example, if you want to keep him, tell him clearly that you don't want him to leave. For another example, if you think he is not sincere enough, tell him clearly how you want him to apologize."
"Why do you have to make him guess when there is no need to guess?"
"He can't guess, so he's inevitably anxious and confused, and you're unhappy, isn't that just adding to the troubles of both of you?"
Gu Yihe had a gloomy brow and poured out his innermost thoughts.
"He couldn't guess that I was really unhappy; even if I said it out loud, I still wasn't happy."
"I hope that he can understand me and know what to do without me having to say it."
"If he does it only after I ask him to do it, it's not the same thing."
Ning Yunxi is so soft and gentle.
"However, fate has determined that it is impossible for people to truly understand each other and fully know each other. No matter how much you are open with each other and how long you spend together, there will always be some unfamiliarities."
"Do you always have a fight every time you encounter a strange place?"
"Does quarreling make you happy?"
Feeling the joy and sadness of the mood, Gu Yihe gave the answer.
"Unhappy."
"I don't want to argue."
"But once I put my mind to it, I can't control my temper at all."
Ning Yunxi had also had this kind of mood before, so she treated it normally and didn't think it was strange.
"There are three types of situations."
"For one thing, I have a slight crush on him. In this case, sincerity is insufficient, but patience is abundant. Just like when you were together before, you can use any tricks you want to scheme against him to gain your own benefits."
"Second, love gradually deepens. In this case, sincerity is enough, but patience is not enough. Just like your current situation, you can't bear to use tricks, be honest with your heart, and expect him to cherish you. The result is not satisfactory, and you will only fall into endless quarrels."
"The third is selfless devotion. In this case, sincerity and patience are enough to stay together for a lifetime and never separate. However, apart from the love between parents, few people in the world can achieve perfection."
"First, you can do it by controlling your input and not expressing your true feelings; second, you can do it by fully committing yourself and not looking back."
"The third is not to be more affectionate, but to grasp the true feelings and control the state of being close but not too close. You are both the most familiar person to each other and the guests who respect each other. You know where to pay attention and where to relax, what to care about and what not to care about, so that you can achieve perfection."
Gu Yihe is shallow and novel.
"This is the first time I've heard of the third theory."
"I think that the first two are either not in love or deeply in love. There is no other situation."
There was a hint of sadness on Ning Yunxi's lips.
"Third, it is the experience I have summed up after my own experience."
"One is that you don't love enough, and the other person thinks you are calculating; the other is that you love too much, and the other person thinks you are cheap and easy to get."
"For the second one, the other party doesn't like it."
“So, I thought of the third one.”
Gu Yihe asked curiously.
"If I can do the third, will I be happy?"
Ning Yunxi told the facts.
"Human greed is endless. If I achieve three things, he will ask for four, and so on. The desire is insatiable and absurd."
The man's aggressive attitude came to her mind, and Gu Yihe immediately looked down on him.
"Then why bother trying? It's better to give up."
"I can live well on my own."
Ning Yunxi spoke in a soft and gentle voice.
"Most people are like you said. But it's easier said than done. Most of them end up failing."
"It is human nature to want to find a partner, just like eating and sleeping, which is very difficult to give up."
Gu Yihe's brows were filled with distress.
“If you don’t find a partner, you will be lonely and helpless; if you find a partner, it will be difficult to have harmony.”
"So, how can we solve this problem?"
Ning Yunxi has a gentle face.
"Your Highness, it's a good idea. Why are couples not getting along?"
Gu Yihe speculated.
“Perhaps, it’s because of the difference between men and women.”
"He doesn't understand women's emotions, and I don't understand men's thoughts."
Ning Yunxi spoke frankly and argued.
"This, for one thing, can be resolved through heart-to-heart talks."
"However, even after the problem is solved, quarrels, separation, and the transformation of love into hate are still unavoidable."
Gu Yihe was greatly shocked.
"After solving it, it still doesn't work?"
"Why is it so difficult for two people to interact with each other?"
Ning Yunxi has a graceful appearance.
"Even relatives fight when they live together, let alone couples, who are not relatives or friends. It is naturally not easy for them to get along well with each other."
Gu Yihe asked.
"Is there no way that will work?"
Ning Yunxi answered.
"Have."
Gu Yihe sat upright and listened attentively.
"Please speak."
Ning Yunxi spoke in a neither fast nor slow manner.
"In my previous life, I experienced many ups and downs and encountered many failures. They all said that it was my fault and that I didn't do well enough."
"So, I tried my best to improve myself. However, failure seemed inevitable. No matter what I did, the result would be the same."
"Later, I met Brother Zhi and listened to him talk about 22nd century medicine. I combined ancient and modern medical books with him to come up with the "Theory of Constitution"."
"This theory covers many aspects, one of which is about how couples can have a harmonious relationship."
Upon hearing such unique insights, Gu Yihe was shocked and puzzled.
“Couples’ quarrels are actually related to medical principles?”
Ning Yunxi’s speech is plain and dignified; his demeanor is like a light cloud covering the moon.
"It is also."
"I have tried it for several years and the results are remarkable. If the right method is not used, even if both parties do well, the enthusiasm cannot be maintained and it cannot stand the test."
"Whether it's a partner or a relative or friend, only by being familiar with medical knowledge and understanding each other, can we achieve harmony and happiness, truly recognize each other, and be willing to stay with each other."
Gu Yihan's eyes were filled with curiosity.
"Please elaborate on this medical principle."
Ning Yunxi does not describe the terms used in medical books, but tries to analyze their meanings as much as possible, which is more helpful for laymen to understand medical theories.
"Your Highness wants to stay, but can't say it out loud. He has a heart disease. He can be cured by diet or medicine, depending on the severity of the disease, in one or two hours at the fastest, or a day and a night at the slowest."
“Once you are relieved, you will find that you don’t need to comfort yourself, and your heart will be untied. You will no longer get angry about many things. It will be easy to express your feelings, and you no longer need the other person to guess what you are thinking.”
Gu Yihe suddenly understood and felt refreshed.
"I seem to have heard that Xinglin Hall and Huichun Hall have recently implemented the "Theory of Constitution" to cure diseases. I haven't heard of the specific content, and I don't know that it can solve emotional conflicts."
"There is no such theory in the world. Without your research, I would have never known that love is related to medicine."
"Are you serious? Are you trying to make fun of me?"
Ning Yunxi took out the pulse pillow.
"You will know once you give it a try, Your Highness."
Gu Yihe couldn't wait and took action.
"please."